Pay close attention to your conversations. “We don’t see ourselves the way others do, so watch “blind spots” - everyone has them,” says Ann. Ask for feedback from a close co-worker or friend if you cannot self-assess.
Don’t be a conversational narcissist. These are people who hijack the conversation back to focus on themselves. When someone is talking about their awesome ski day on Sunday, then you immediately talk about your best ski day; that’s not connecting. The easy fix? Ask them more about their ski day and congratulate them on hitting the snow on an epic day.
Don’t bend to negative egocentrism. That’s complaining about your problems. Even the little problems, like how your iPhone is slow. That makes you boring. The fix? Talk about things that are positive in your life that are going on around you.
Don’t speak negatively about others. My mother always said “If you don’t have something nice to say about someone, don’t say anything.” Your mother might have said the same thing. Quick fix? Speak more positively about others, and others will speak more positively about you. Guaranteed.
Pay attention to how you come across. You will advance in your career by engaging with colleagues in an authentic, focussed, and interesting way rather than making it all about you.
I’ll provide more next week from Ann, so stay tuned.