Throw Self-Doubt Out the Window
Sometimes the only thing standing in the way of you doing your best is...you. Everyone has those little voices in their head telling them they aren’t good enough or can’t do something. Confidence isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes time and practice.
Here are some things you can do to change what those little voices are telling you:
Keep Going - Were you awesome the first time you rode a bike, shot a basket, did a presentation, held a meeting or led a team? Probably not. But each time you did it, you improved. When you repeat something enough times, it becomes familiar enough for you to be confident in it. The more you do something, the more confident you become. Don’t give up.
Stop the Negative Thoughts - I actually mean yell "stop!" The moment you start having negative thoughts, say “stop” out loud and bring yourself back to the present. Then change the negative thought with a positive one. Change “Ugh, I have no idea what I am doing” to - deep breath - “Okay, I got this. I am smart and can make this work.”
Surround Yourself with Supporters - When everyone around us is telling us we can’t, it doesn’t take long for us to believe them. Surround yourself with good people who make you want to be better and who support you and your growth. We become our environments, so if you find yourself around negative, unsupportive people, it might be time to find a new group.
Help Someone Else - When others see us as a teacher or role model, we eventually start to believe them. It feels really good helping other people and that good energy will give you confidence in yourself. It also helps build stronger relationships and a supportive environment.
You have the power to take that self-doubt and throw it out the window. If you act confident, you will be confident. If you act scared, you will be scared. Change how you talk to yourself and realize how much you can thrive.
The inspiration from this blog is from this episode of How to Be Awesome At Your Job Podcast.
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